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3 re-definitions

  1. Purity: holiness, closeness with God—to use it as purity culture does, equating it with only sexual behavior is a narrow view of God
  2. Modesty: in Scripture, this is more about money than sex (1 Timothy 2:9)
  3. Virginity: legal designation no referring to sexual debut—means a woman who belongs to herself.

Hebrew Bible

a great modern analog for thinking about the instructions to be fruitful in the land and the focus on procreative sex is Nobody Wants This—one character tells another that the reason he’s getting so much social pressure about his dating choices is because Jewish faith and culture survives by Jewish people marrying each other and having Jewish children

Song of Solomon: the lovers are not married and many of the sex acts alluded to are for pleasure and not procreative. Some theologians interpret Song of Solomon as an allegory for how God loves the church, but this seems like too much, I hope they chill out

Ruth and Boaz are not married, and uncovering his feet has nothing to do with shoes

New Testament

References to sexuality immorality as in 1 Thessalonians 4 shouldn’t be conflated with healthy, consensual sexuality

Paul doesn’t even lift up marriage as a ‘right choice’—-it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9)

Jesus talks more about money than sex— in 1 Timothy, modesty doesn’t refer to the length of your shorts—it’s about not flaunting wealth

Lust vs. attraction: Lust is objectifying, don’t conflate it with healthy attraction

Frameworks